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At 11:35am on June 25, 2009, Tom said…: Hi everybody, can anybody give me a solution for emotional dependency, please help me.

At 9:23am on April 28, 2009, joe said…: hi tom,

joe here from the UK

At 9:48pm on March 29, 2009, Raleigh said…: Hello Tom,

Sorry to be so delinquent in responding to your kind words. I am currently in the middle of a move and don't get to the computer very often. I appreciate your offer of prayers and brotherly support and I extend the same to you. God has been so good to me and I only hope to become a dim reflection of His goodness to others.

Praying for you in your journey,

Raleigh

At 12:15pm on March 21, 2009, MarkTalbert said…: Hi Tom,

Thanks for the friend invite. I have accepted it. Hope to catch up with you soon. Be blessed and be a blessing.

~ Mark

At 10:13am on March 8, 2009, John said…: That's so good, Tom! And remember that no matter what your struggles might be, God loves you so deeply. He's truly fond of you!

Remember 1 Corinthians 6:11!

John

At 9:20am on March 4, 2009, Aaron said…: I grow up as a very lonely little boy mostly because my parents worked odd hours and left me and my siblings to sitters or day care. I remember sitting under the slide at day care crying all day while the other kids played. I was the youngest of three so my older brother and sister went to the girls and boys club during the day while I was at day care which left me with no one I knew. I was freighted and alone, you could say that I grow up on my own because my father was very passive and had his own agenda while my mother was sleeping during the day due to night shift work schedules. When I was about 6 I experienced for the first time a sexual encounter with the opposite sex, it was a women maybe mid 30's who complimented on how I skateboarded when we were camping once. She invited me to her camp site and touched and kissed me. I wasn’t sure what to think but I had no problem with it because it seemed she liked me and was giving me attention that I longed for. The next time I was abused was around age 10 when an older boy on my block asked my to do sexual things and showed me is privates, he offered me money and candy as payment, but it scared me so I ran off and told my sister, nothing ever came of it and I forgot. I was first exposed to pornography also at age 10 with playboy magazine. All it took was a few glances at the pages and I was hooked, these were women who appeared to be like the one that touched and kissed me at age 6, all very pretty, always smiling and always available. My fantasy life began, as I progressed into my early teen years 12 or 13 I was exposed to hard core porn for the first time at my friends house it was his dads video. It grossed me out the things that they were doing in the video however it made me interested and more curious. I started acting out my fantasies with masturbation the more I did it the more I wanted to, before I knew it I had a collection of magazines and other materials that I had stolen from my friends house out from under his dads bed. This was the only intimacy I knew or had. I eventually started going to church at around age 15 and got saved at age 16. Even after being a part of the youth group and singing in worship, going to bible studies ECT. I was still much involved with my sexual sin and it was getting worse, all I thought about was sex and every time I looked at a women I began to undress her with my eyes, I tried to get girl friends in the youth group just hoping one would go all the way with me. I don’t think I was genuine about my commitment to Christ at the time I think I just wanted to be part of the group. At age 17 I got involved with drugs and partying I stopped going to church and was involved in all the wrong crowds. I hated myself, I remember the night I was at a girl’s house who I was interested in at youth group, I was about 17 we started making out in her room and before you know we had gone all the way. It was nothing like I had expected I was terrified because I knew I had broken god’s law even further this time. I had a mental break down and ended up in a physc. Hospital for two weeks because of my suicide attempts. I continued to do drugs and be involved with porn I thought it would never change. When I and my wife were dating we both did drugs and had sex a lot. I was empty no matter how many drugs I did or how many times we had sex. I had a life changing talk with god when I found out I was going to be a father; I threw my bag of pot away and said its time to be a man. We got married 3 months after that and I thought everything was going to be OK. I didn’t realized that the next 3 years were going to be the toughest in my life. I was still hooked on porn couldn’t stop and no one knew. I went through a severe depression because I didn’t want to live this way anymore, I tried to kill myself a few time by cutting my wrist, but god kept me alive. I battled with my sin for most my life alone until god broke me and I came out of hiding. It was by far the hardest thing to do, I began seeing a Christian counselor it helped but I needed something I could relate to. God brought Christian men into my life that had similar stories to mine and helped carry the burden. I must have asked god to save me a million times from the time I fell away from him but all I needed to do was turn around because there he was waiting for me to surrender. I have started getting victory in my life and today I still fall sometimes but I get back up and try again, I have accountability from brothers and a savior who will not give up on me until I am perfected. For the first time I’m a fighter and not the victim.... Praise Jesus for the blood he shed to save a sinner like me

At 8:24am on March 2, 2009, Aaron said…: Welcome to the Brotherhood, I hope to get to know you and share some of my story with you. Remember your not alone!!

At 7:42pm on February 27, 2009, John said…: Hello, Tom! Thanks for your comments!

If I can help point you to some things that God might use to help you in your struggle, and walk with you some in it, too, I'd be very happy.

You might want also to check out Dennis Jernigan's site, www.dennisjernigan.com. His story, and his music, are things that have spoken to many people.

On the site, too, is a special devotional guide you can order, Victim to Victor. It might be something God would use to help you, too.

Remember that you're loved, brother, more than you can imagine. The God who made you knows you, knows everything about you, every struggle, every "shameful thing." And He still loves you!

But, because He loves you, He doesn't want to leave you where you are.

I'm looking forward to hearing more about what you're learning and how you're doing, and how you're growing in your journey with Jesus!